Apa Yang Perlu dibuat Sekiranya Anak Anda Ada Speech Delay Problem

Assalamualaikum…

Haritu masa I up status dekat FB macam ni,

‘When you're tired of being asked when your child is going to talk, remember that these successful people didn't begin talking until they were at least 2—and, in some cases, 4!

Gary Becker, Nobel Prize-winning economist
Albert Einstein, theoretical physicist
Julia Robinson, the first woman president of the American Mathematical Society
Arthur Rubinstein, piano virtuoso
Edward Teller, physicist and nuclear power pioneer’

Lepas tu Asma komen macam ni pulak.

‘Sometimes it’s not wrong to consider other people's concern so as to compare your child's development with others similar to his age. Some parents esp those with a firstborn child may not be as sensitive regarding their child's developmental milestones. Some kids (esp boys) may have undiagnosed mild learning disorders, that are easily dealt with if detected early. It may not be easy to accept but if no specialist (paeds with special interest (or subspecialty) in children with learning disability) has been consulted then maybe it is time to do so.

I have seen a few cases (boys) 1) 3 years old boy having difficulty in understanding instructions, very temperamental, unable to engage in playing with other kids, unable to talk yet - advised mother to seek professional advice, mother declined, saying she doesn’t think child has learning disability. 2) 7 years old boy, started schooling this week, learned to speak words at 5 years old, currently only able to speak 2 words sentences, unable to understand or communicate beyond basic needs, temperamental at home and in public, Mother started having suspicions since he was 2/3 years of age but teachers, friends and family kept saying "child is normal, give time etc".

Only consulted me yesterday when 2 parents of children in her son's class pointed out that her son is not "normal" and having difficulty coping in school. Upon seeing child noted that he does have autism characteristic - referral to paeds given. Mother is very sorry that she did not act on her suspicion earlier. Conclusion: if you have any doubt on your child's milestones, seek professional help first before wanting to settle on waiting and being very accepting. Hope this helps kak su. Only sharing through working experience....i do agree that some of the great people you mentioned had delayed milestones but during those days, autism or other learning disorders go undetected as there were less awareness in the public.‘. 

Me and my Shein Iskandar

Conclusion dari komen ni ialah Asma as a Doktor cakap, dia suruh kita ambik komen/compare pasal anak masing-masing ni at a bright side sebab dia cakap, dia jumpa ramai parents yang take the comment negatively. Maksudnya dorang taknak buat apapa. Ada some of their kids tu yang ada mild autism, severe autism, hyper and speech delay. Maksudnya ada development disorder problem tapi ada Ibu Bapa yang macam berada dalam in-denial stage forever. Tak buat apapa pada anak sedangkan mereka sendiri tau yang anak mereka ada masalah. Mungkin mereka tak dapat terima hakikat so tak buat apapa and maybe ego nak admit or maybe takot nak face the truth. Sedangkan kalau dorang buat rawatan awal, anak dorang boleh pulih and membesar macam kanak-kanak sihat yang lain.

Now, I nak cakap and share pengalaman I sendiri as a mother of speech delay toddler macam Shein Iskandar. Sedih memang la sedih tapi nak buat macam mana, ujian Allah tu berbeza-beza pada setiap manusia. I syukur Shein takde autism or mild autism and I bersyukur sebab Shein ni cuma ada masalah speech delay dan boleh dirawat. Bukan masalah sakit kronik macam cancer, jantung dan penyakit-penyakit serious yang lain (mintak dijauhkan).  Now kitorang at the right track. Sebab I bantu dia untuk face dia punya problem. I tak berada dalam in denial stage forever.

What I did is masa dia cukup 2 tahun and ada very limited verbs, I bawak dia jumpa Development Disorder Specialist dekat Prince Court. Doktor Feizal Khan. Dekat sana, Doktor buat assessment and sahkan yang Shein is autism free BUT ada speech delay problem. So dia suggest untuk jumpa Speech Therapist and dah boleh start masuk Speech Therapy. Just untuk korang punya information, assessment yang I buat dekat Prince Court cost me dalam RM700.00 macam tu and RM250 per session untuk Speech Therapy (1 – 1.5 hours/session).

Now Alhamdulillah dengan bantuan Cikgu-cikgu dekat Building Blocks International dan tunjuk ajar dari kawan-kawan yang ada anak speech delay problem, Al-hamdulillah Shein dah banyak keluarkan perkataan walaupon tak sama dengan peer dia. Dia dah boleh guna ayat correctly pada situation and person macam ‘No, Go, Bye-bye, Habis, Dirty, Fish, Abah, Mama and Baba’. Lepas tu dia dah paham arahan banyak (but mostly dia paham in English sebab dekat sekolah dia guna 100% English). I pernah dengar dia count 1 to 10, sebut ‘Youtube’ and jawab ‘No, not me!’ So basically Shein boleh bercakap cuma dia lack of confidence dan jugak confuse nak cakap bahasa apa. Sebab kitorang guna Malay and English sama banyak. Yang tu kitorang memang kena baiki.

I dengan Sazli tadek la cakap English all the time kat rumah. Rumah pon apartment je nak cakap English all the time ko dah kenapa? Hahahaha. Sebenarnya tu pon silap. I ingat I hanya perlu bercakap dengan Shein dalam English lepas tu cakap je Melayu dengan Sazli. Sebenarnya tak. Shein learn from dia punya keadaan sekeliling especially at home. So, sebenarnya yang terbaik ialah I sendiri kena bercakap dengan Sazli in English dekat rumah. Bukan waktu bercakap dengan dia je. Nak cakap melayu kena 100% Melayu, English kena 100% English. Yang ni I dah refer pada Principle dia dekat BBI also Cikgu/Consultant dekat WQ Park (Health & Rehabilitation Centre), dorang strongly advice untuk Shein teruskan communicate in English bukan sebab POYO tapi sebab dia nampaknya lebih selesa cakap English and sekolah dia belajar sekarang memang guna English sebagai bahasa perantara.

Kata Consultant dekat WQ Park as well, Speech Delay Toddler macam Shein ni if let say dari kindy dia dah guna English, memang sampai la dia masuk Primary School, dah tak boleh masuk Sekolah Kebangsaan. So please kepada sesiapa yang dah cakap and ada niat nak mengutuk kami emak-emak yang ada speech delay problem ni as a poyo and belagak sebab tak boleh hantar anak ke sekolah kebangsaan, please reserve your comment. Please remember yang most of sekolah khas untuk bebudak macam ni guna English sebab English lebih mudah. Contoh : Ke-Re-Ta, but in English cuma ‘Car’. Ma-Kan, in English ‘Eat’. Ti-dur, in English ‘Sleep’ lebih pendek and mudah kan? So ada sebab kenapa mereka menggunakan English. Sebab lebih mudah untuk budak-budak speech delay and bukan sebab POYO and berlagak. OK?

Nasihat I satu je, Please. If nampak anak korang different and something wrong somewhere, cepat-cepat seek for professional advice. Kalau takde duit nak pergi Private Hospital, there’s always ada government hospital macam HKL yang bagus dan ada ramai pakar-pakar yang sama hebat macam Private Hospital. Buat assessment and take their advice seriously. If kena hantar sekolah khas, go. Google la. Ada banyak badan-badan khas yang membantu kanak-kanak macam ni. Dorang sendiri ada their own community. Ada yang Free, ada yang berbayar. Buat la rawatan sewajarnya. Bantu anak anda untuk face the world dan tak ketinggalan sama macam orang lain.

Ye, I tau memang sakit. Memang perit untuk jawab soalan-soalan dari society but korang kena kuat. Chin up and just face it. I ni sampai ada yang cakap Shein jadik macam ni sebab Kifarah. Astaghfirullah sabar jer la. But I malas nak ambik pusing pon. Mengadu and bincang dengan Sazli pon takde. Malas I nak cakap kalau buat lagi tambah stressed. Apa-apa hujah orang nak bagi, dengar je and sabar. Kalau rasa tak worth it untuk di jawab just senyum and cakap ‘Ye Betoooool’. Pura-pura setuju pon takpe janji tak sakit hati. Yang penting, korang tau yang korang dah buat yang terbaik untuk anak-anak korang.

If ada Ibu-Ibu yang ada anak bermasalah, berubahlah dari sekarang ye? Mintak nasihat Pakar. Untuk kebaikan anak kita jugak. Kata-kata negative tu tolak tepi, ambik yang baik-baik sahaja. InsyaAllah nanti Allah akan bantu. After all, kita kan Ibu? Of coz kita nak yang terbaik untuk anak kita. Tu pon dah dapat pahala. Amin….

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